Taking the Tarts When They’re Passed – Chapter One

I am going to start the new year off right – reading stories shared by moms with wisdom. Last evening at Barnes & Noble, I picked up ‘Chicken Soup for the Soul – Stay-at-Home Moms’. I plan to read a few chapters a week and reflect on them. We will see how it goes.

This chapter starts out with a quote from one of my very favorite men from our history – Abraham Lincoln. “In the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.” This chapter mainly discussed the all-too-often lives that women lead today – too busy, too committed and to too many things. It is so easy to try to juggle too many balls, in fact, I have done it myself. Sometimes, something has to give. My “focus”, my “purpose” and my “job” is to be a mother. My life, right now, is focused merely on raising a child who is capable of thinking independently by providing him with endless experiences in a supportive environment. This woman talked about a little piece of advice she was given from her grandmother, “take the tarts when they’re passed, dear.” Another words, accept opportunity and embrace change.

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I am going to reflect on this for a moment because something occurred to me while I was reading. I never embrace change. I am a PLANNER. Many of you who know me, know that I really prefer to expect and plan precisely what is going to happen when and I am so very far from being, even remotely, a somewhat “spontaneous” person. I like to have everything written down, in order, and having my thoughts completely organized prior to the day beginning. This is required for me to function. Strength or weakness? Well, I am not sure. In some cases, I like having this personality characteristic; however, change happens. Change is often good and too often fear of the unknown prevents me from moving forward with a risk. This chapter ended with a respectable and humbling thought, “I trust in the undeniable truth that each and every experience, good or bad, will bring with it wisdom and learning.”

The same, really, goes for accepting opportunity as well. Accepting opportunity almost always is accompanied by changes. Lets just put it this way, prior to now, I (very carefully) accepted opportunities after first considering, planning and weighing out the pros and cons of the changes. Well, I want to change that. Today. I want to take risks.

This is how I plan to ring in my new year; taking risks through accepting opportunity and embracing change. This year, I am not making a laundry list of “resolutions”. I am going to focus on one word and I am still in search of that word. Some qualifiers, among many, have been STRENGTH, FOCUS, GIVE, CHERISH, and SERVE. I am going to pick a single word to focus on for the entire year and I plan to apply it to all that I do. I will update with my “focus word” when I figure it out.

Until next time…HAPPY NEW YEAR!